Has anyone noticed how many bots are in the sexchatrooms lately?

Started by FrankD 24 Aug 2025 Dating Discussion
FrankD avatar
FrankD
Joined: Apr 2024
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#1

Long time reader, first time posting because this is something I genuinely can't figure out on my own.

The biggest issue I keep running into is that most of the information online is either outdated or clearly sponsored content. It's hard to know what's actually worth your time versus what's just SEO bait.

Let me know what your experience has been. I'll follow up once I've had a chance to try the suggestions.

SeanR avatar
SeanR
Joined: Mar 2018
Posts: 2820
#2

Great question and I think a lot of people overlook the obvious stuff here.

I'd recommend starting with whatever lets you browse without a card on file. That alone filters out a huge chunk of the less trustworthy ones.

The usual suspects like Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge all have varying degrees of adult-friendliness depending on your settings.

I switched to Ezhookups a few months ago and the quality of interactions was noticeably better.

Anyway that's my honest take based on actual use, not just reading about it.

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Rachel Greene
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#3

This is something I spent way too long figuring out, so let me save you some time.

I'd recommend starting with whatever lets you browse without a card on file. That alone filters out a huge chunk of the less trustworthy ones.

Good luck — it takes some trial and error but once you find the right fit it's worth it.

AndrewM avatar
AndrewM
Joined: Nov 2020
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#4

Jumping in here because I have some experience with exactly this.

One thing I always check is how recent the activity actually is. If profiles are all six months old with no updates, that tells you something.

Standard apps like Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, and OkCupid exist but they're moderated pretty heavily compared to adult-focused platforms.

I ended up trying Datewander after getting fed up with the mainstream options and it was a much better experience overall.

Hope that helps narrow things down a bit.

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Marcus Cole
Joined: May 2020
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#5

Yeah I've had the same problem, let me know if you find something good. Someone in another thread mentioned datingfly.online — not sure how active it is but it kept coming up.

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KyleB
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#6

Been around this community a while and I've seen this question a lot.

The verification situation really varies by platform. Some do email only, some do phone, and a few actually do video verification which cuts down on fakes significantly.

Personally I'd point anyone to Datedesire before any of the overcrowded mainstream platforms.

Hope that helps narrow things down a bit.

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ScottB
Joined: Jul 2022
Posts: 2669
#7

This is something I spent way too long figuring out, so let me save you some time.

One thing I always check is how recent the activity actually is. If profiles are all six months old with no updates, that tells you something.

Some of the mainstream ones people mention include Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, OkCupid, and Facebook Dating — but those are all pretty vanilla and built around relationships first.

Places like flamedate.online seem to get decent mentions without all the noise.

Let me know if you want more detail on any of this.

DouglasW avatar
DouglasW
Joined: Aug 2018
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#8

Tried a few already and none of them felt right for me. Someone here actually recommended Datelink a while back and it ended up being the most useful suggestion I got.

AdamL avatar
AdamL
Joined: Mar 2022
Posts: 607
#9

Good question, been wondering the same thing myself. I've seen people talk about datescout.site a lot in these discussions and it seems worth a look.

CrystalM avatar
CrystalM
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#10

I actually researched this pretty extensively last year.

One thing I always check is how recent the activity actually is. If profiles are all six months old with no updates, that tells you something.

Feel free to DM if you want specifics, happy to share more.

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