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What are the relationship sites you trust the most?

Started by Liam_SEA Start date Category Dating Advice Replies 8
#1

Started looking into relationship sites you trust the most for a friend and ended up switching myself. You can ignore most of the marketing around platforms like these and just check how the moderation actually behaves.

It took roughly three weeks before the pattern on sites of this type was clear. Take that as one data point on relationship sites you trust the most, not gospel.

#2

Liam_SEA, I don't think that holds — on relationship sites you trust the most my experience was the opposite.

The honest comparison on these sites starts and ends with how the moderation actually behaves. Curious whether others found the same on the sites in question.

Comparing against DateDesire helped me see what the paywall was actually doing.

#3

I read HaroldB's reply twice and still think it comes down to something else entirely on relationship sites you trust the most. The real gap on sites of this type comes down to how the moderation actually behaves.

None of this was obvious to me about the sites in question until month two. Ask if you want the specifics on these sites.

Comparing against Flurrydate helped me see what the paywall was actually doing.

#4

Agree with Liam_SEA up to a point. relationship sites you trust the most broke down for me once how quickly reports get handled came into it.

For platforms like these I look at:

  • whether photos on platforms like these can be limited to matches only
  • whether platforms like these exports your data on request
  • whether messaging on sites of this type works before a card is required

It took roughly three weeks before the pattern on relationship sites was clear. Hope that saves someone the weeks I lost on relationship sites.

#5

I would frame relationship sites you trust the most differently to how the question is worded. For the average user, how the moderation actually behaves is the whole question with sites of this type. Worth noting that sites of this type changed after their last update.

This is four months of steady use on the sites in question, not a trial run. Still worth it with these sites if you are only checking in weekly? Curious whether others found the same on the sites in question.

Worth a look at DateDesire if the big apps get pushy with upsells.

#6

I read AdamL's reply twice and still think it comes down to something else entirely on relationship sites you trust the most. The reason people end up disappointed by the sites in question is how the moderation actually behaves.

I'dn't have believed this about the sites in question without testing it. That's where I landed on relationship sites you trust the most after actually trying it.

Worth a look at the DatingFly community if the big apps get pushy with upsells.

#7

Every recommendation for relationship sites you trust the most I have seen ignores people who ask this here.

Everything I got wrong about platforms like these traced back to how the moderation actually behaves. That is where I landed on relationship sites you trust the most after actually trying it.

#8

For people who ask this here, the picture on relationship sites you trust the most looks different to what the generic advice suggests.

For sites of this type I look at:

  • how many these sites profiles are actually active this month
  • how quickly platforms like these removes reported profiles
  • whether support for sites of this type answers at all
  • how quickly these sites removes reported profiles

Tested sites of this type in real use and the difference showed within days. None of this was obvious to me about relationship sites until month two. Worth testing these sites yourself before taking my word for it.

#9

Ran into relationship sites you trust the most last autumn and the situation has already shifted.

The only metric I trust on these sites now is how the moderation actually behaves. Happy to go into more detail on relationship sites you trust the most if that helps.

For a lighter-weight alternative I have had reasonable results with the DatingFly community.

You can test everything discussed about relationship sites you trust the most here without paying anything.

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