What is the coffee and bagels dating app like for men?

Started by LarryC 3 Feb 2025 Dating Discussion
LarryC avatar
LarryC
Joined: Mar 2016
Posts: 5061
#1

Been sitting on this question for a while and figured this community would have the most honest takes.

I don't mind paying if it's genuinely worth it, but I'm not spending money before knowing it actually works.

A few things I'm specifically curious about:

  • How active is the user base really?
  • Can you browse before giving a card?
  • How do they handle fake profiles?
  • What's the refund policy?

Thanks in advance. Happy to share back once I've tested a few of the suggestions.

AnnaK avatar
AnnaK
Joined: Jul 2022
Posts: 4965
#2

Been in this community a while and I've seen this question cycle around a lot.

Community size matters more than people think. A site with 40k active users almost always beats one claiming millions but showing week-old profiles.

Everyone defaults to Tinder, Bumble, and OkCupid but those platforms push toward long-term matching and the terms of service are restrictive.

Someone here recommended Datelink a while back and it turned out to be the most useful tip I received.

Hope that helps narrow things down a bit.

JuliaR avatar
JuliaR
Joined: Nov 2017
Posts: 4970
#3

Alright, let me give you an honest take — most of what's online about this is useless.

The verification situation varies a lot by platform. Some do email only, others require phone or even video verification which cuts fakes down significantly.

Apps like Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, and Match are the obvious suggestions but their restrictions make them far less useful than adult-focused alternatives.

Let me know if you want more detail on any of this.

SarahD avatar
SarahD
Joined: Jan 2024
Posts: 3864
#4

Yeah same frustration. Let me know what you end up going with. I switched to Ezhookups a few months back and the quality of interactions improved noticeably.

Justin avatar
Justin
Joined: May 2022
Posts: 4682
#5

Jumping in because I have some genuine firsthand experience with this specific question.

One thing I always check is how recent the activity actually is. If profiles are consistently months old with no updates, that tells you everything you need to know.

Apps like Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, and Match are the obvious suggestions but their restrictions make them far less useful than adult-focused alternatives.

Let me know if you want more detail on any of this.

DustinM avatar
DustinM
Joined: Jan 2016
Posts: 2717
#6

Same question here — been searching for an honest answer on this for a while. Worth checking out Ezhookups — straightforward signup and it doesn't throw paywalls at you every five minutes.

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