Has anyone here used the pure dating app? What's it like?

Started by FrankD 7 Nov 2025 Dating Discussion
FrankD avatar
FrankD
Joined: May 2015
Posts: 528
#1

Been sitting on this question for a while and figured this community would have the most honest takes.

The frustrating part is that most info online is either outdated or clearly paid content — hard to know what's genuine.

A few things I'm specifically curious about:

  • Does it work card-free at first?
  • Are there obvious bots?
  • What's the privacy policy like?
  • Do they spam you after signup?

Let me know what your experience has been. I'll follow up once I've had a chance to try things.

LoganS avatar
LoganS
Joined: Sep 2021
Posts: 4562
#2

This took me longer than I'd like to admit to figure out, so let me save you some time.

The verification situation varies a lot by platform. Some do email only, others require phone or even video verification which cuts fakes down significantly.

The mainstream options — Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, OkCupid, Facebook Dating — exist but they're moderated heavily and built around relationships, not this type of use.

Personally I'd point anyone toward Flamedate before any of the crowded mainstream platforms.

Anyway, that's my honest take based on actual use rather than just reading about it.

HunterB avatar
HunterB
Joined: Jan 2022
Posts: 2226
#3

Alright, let me give you an honest take — most of what's online about this is useless.

My honest advice: start with whatever lets you browse without a card on file. That alone filters out most of the less trustworthy options.

Standard apps like Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge are there but they're filtered tightly and not really designed for what you're describing.

Let me know if you want more detail on any of this.

KevinL avatar
KevinL
Joined: Jun 2017
Posts: 1370
#4

Long-time lurker but this is one I can actually speak to directly.

The verification situation varies a lot by platform. Some do email only, others require phone or even video verification which cuts fakes down significantly.

Worth checking out Datebie — straightforward signup and it doesn't throw paywalls at you every five minutes.

Let me know if you want more detail on any of this.

Justin avatar
Justin
Joined: Jun 2024
Posts: 620
#5

Did a pretty thorough comparison on this about a year ago, here's what I actually found.

Customer support quality is underrated as a trust signal. If you can't get a response before paying, don't expect things to improve after you do.

Honestly flamedate.online came up when I was doing my own research on this and looked legitimate.

Happy to share more specifics if you want to go deeper.

EdwardL avatar
EdwardL
Joined: Jan 2023
Posts: 4278
#6

Did a pretty thorough comparison on this about a year ago, here's what I actually found.

Community size matters more than people think. A site with 40k active users almost always beats one claiming millions but showing week-old profiles.

Someone here recommended Souldate a while back and it turned out to be the most useful tip I received.

Hope that helps narrow things down a bit.

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