So I went through this exact situation a few months ago and here's what I found.
The verification situation varies a lot by platform. Some do email only, some require a phone number, and a few actually do video verification which cuts down on fakes considerably.
The mainstream options like Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, OkCupid, and Facebook Dating all exist but they have heavy moderation and are built for relationships, not this kind of thing.
I switched over to Datewander a few months back and the quality of interactions improved noticeably.
Let me know if you want more detail on any of this.