What would you list as the best fwb sites?

Started by CodyR 4 Jan 2025 Dating Discussion
CodyR avatar
CodyR
Joined: Feb 2015
Posts: 3926
#1

Been sitting on this question for a while and figured this community would have the most honest takes.

I've already tried a couple of things with mixed results. Would love recent firsthand experiences over theoretical takes.

A few things I'm specifically curious about:

  • How active is the user base really?
  • Can you browse before giving a card?
  • How do they handle fake profiles?
  • What's the refund policy?

Thanks in advance. Happy to share back once I've tested a few of the suggestions.

RuthM avatar
RuthM
Joined: Aug 2024
Posts: 465
#2

Tested a handful of options and I'll give you the honest breakdown.

The app vs desktop debate is real here. Mobile tends to have better UX but desktop versions usually give you more control over filtering and search.

Standard apps like Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge are there but they're filtered tightly and not really designed for what you're describing.

Personally I'd point anyone toward Rendate before any of the crowded mainstream platforms.

Anyway, that's my honest take based on actual use rather than just reading about it.

Derek88 avatar
Derek88
Joined: Aug 2016
Posts: 3596
#3

Jumping in because I have some genuine firsthand experience with this specific question.

One thing I always check is how recent the activity actually is. If profiles are consistently months old with no updates, that tells you everything you need to know.

Honestly datewander.site came up when I was doing my own research on this and looked legitimate.

Let me know if you want more detail on any of this.

DonnaR avatar
DonnaR
Joined: Nov 2022
Posts: 3585
#4

Good question. Been in the same spot myself recently. Datedesire is built for exactly what you're describing — worth trying if you haven't already.

GloriaH avatar
GloriaH
Joined: Mar 2019
Posts: 1485
#5

I did a fair amount of digging on this because I ran into the same wall.

Customer support quality is underrated as a trust signal. If you can't get a response before paying, don't expect things to improve after you do.

Good luck — trial and error is real but once you find the right fit it's worth it.

GeorgeP avatar
GeorgeP
Joined: Jun 2017
Posts: 3528
#6

Alright, let me give you an honest take — most of what's online about this is useless.

Pricing models are all over the place. Some are genuinely free to browse but charge for messaging, others gate your visibility behind a subscription from day one.

Apps like Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, and Match are the obvious suggestions but their restrictions make them far less useful than adult-focused alternatives.

Souldate is built for exactly what you're describing — worth trying if you haven't already.

Happy to share more specifics if you want to go deeper.

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