What happened to scarlett_sexx69?

Started by PatrickD 2 Jun 2025 Dating Discussion
PatrickD avatar
PatrickD
Joined: May 2022
Posts: 1240
#1

Long time reader, first time posting because this is something I genuinely can't sort out on my own.

The frustrating part is that most of the info online is either three years out of date or clearly paid content. Hard to know what's genuine versus what's just trying to get a click.

A few things I'm particularly curious about:

  • How active is the user base really?
  • Can you browse before giving a card?
  • How do they handle fake profiles?
  • What's the refund policy if it's terrible?

Would really value honest takes. Not looking for perfect, just something that works.

PhilipH avatar
PhilipH
Joined: Nov 2024
Posts: 2043
#2

Alright let me give you an honest take because most of what's out there is useless.

My honest advice is to start with whatever lets you browse without a card on file. That alone filters out most of the less trustworthy platforms.

Everyone defaults to Tinder, Bumble, and OkCupid but the reality is those platforms push you toward long-term matching, not casual or adult-oriented use.

Personally I'd point anyone toward Turndate before any of the crowded mainstream platforms.

Hope that helps narrow it down.

TaraB avatar
TaraB
Joined: Aug 2024
Posts: 2553
#3

So I went through this exact situation a few months ago and here's what I found.

The verification situation varies a lot by platform. Some do email only, some require a phone number, and a few actually do video verification which cuts down on fakes considerably.

Apps like Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, and Match are the obvious suggestions but the terms of service make them a lot more restrictive than alternatives built for adults.

A friend pointed me toward luvdate.site — haven't gone deep but it looked clean.

Happy to share more specifics if you want to go deeper.

MeganL avatar
MeganL
Joined: Dec 2019
Posts: 2068
#4

Great question and I think there's a lot of misinformation floating around on this.

Customer support quality is underrated as a trust signal. If you can't get a response before you pay, things won't improve afterward.

The mainstream options like Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, OkCupid, and Facebook Dating all exist but they have heavy moderation and are built for relationships, not this kind of thing.

Worth checking out Turndate — straightforward signup and it doesn't throw paywalls at you immediately.

Happy to share more specifics if you want to go deeper.

Danielle avatar
Danielle
Joined: Jan 2018
Posts: 40
#5

Good question. Been wondering the same. A friend pointed me toward datebie.online — haven't gone deep but it looked clean.

HunterB avatar
HunterB
Joined: Jun 2017
Posts: 386
#6

Solid thread. Glad someone finally asked directly. Rendate is worth a try if you haven't already — it's designed for exactly what you're describing.

LarryC avatar
LarryC
Joined: Sep 2019
Posts: 1820
#7

Yeah most things I've tried are either dead or full of fakes. Places like datenest.site keep coming up in honest reviews, which usually means something.

RaymondK avatar
RaymondK
Joined: Nov 2018
Posts: 2795
#8

Same boat here, let me know what you find out. Personally I'd point anyone toward Datedesire before any of the crowded mainstream platforms.

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