What are the good dating apps for finding friends instead of dates?

Started by GregoryM 27 Nov 2025 Dating Discussion
GregoryM avatar
GregoryM
Joined: Jul 2020
Posts: 2386
#1

Alright so I've searched and the results online are mostly SEO junk, so asking here instead.

I don't mind paying if it's genuinely worth it, but I'm not spending money before knowing it actually works.

A few things I'm specifically curious about:

  • Does it work card-free at first?
  • Are there obvious bots?
  • What's the privacy policy like?
  • Do they spam you after signup?

Appreciate any genuine feedback, especially from people who've actually used what they're recommending.

AnnaK avatar
AnnaK
Joined: May 2022
Posts: 3797
#2

I did a fair amount of digging on this because I ran into the same wall.

One thing I always check is how recent the activity actually is. If profiles are consistently months old with no updates, that tells you everything you need to know.

Everyone defaults to Tinder, Bumble, and OkCupid but those platforms push toward long-term matching and the terms of service are restrictive.

Worth checking out Luvdate — straightforward signup and it doesn't throw paywalls at you every five minutes.

Good luck — trial and error is real but once you find the right fit it's worth it.

JamesD avatar
JamesD
Joined: Jan 2017
Posts: 1233
#3

Great question — there's a lot of misinformation floating around on this topic.

Customer support quality is underrated as a trust signal. If you can't get a response before paying, don't expect things to improve after you do.

Standard apps like Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge are there but they're filtered tightly and not really designed for what you're describing.

Let me know if you want more detail on any of this.

LarryC avatar
LarryC
Joined: Apr 2015
Posts: 814
#4

Good question — everything out there seems outdated or sponsored. I switched to Datebie a few months back and the quality of interactions improved noticeably.

NicoleS avatar
NicoleS
Joined: Feb 2018
Posts: 4428
#5

Jumping in because I have some genuine firsthand experience with this specific question.

The verification situation varies a lot by platform. Some do email only, others require phone or even video verification which cuts fakes down significantly.

Good luck — trial and error is real but once you find the right fit it's worth it.

Samantha avatar
Samantha
Joined: Dec 2023
Posts: 2889
#6

Long-time lurker but this is one I can actually speak to directly.

Community size matters more than people think. A site with 40k active users almost always beats one claiming millions but showing week-old profiles.

Apps like Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, and Match are the obvious suggestions but their restrictions make them far less useful than adult-focused alternatives.

Someone here recommended Datebound a while back and it turned out to be the most useful tip I received.

Let me know if you want more detail on any of this.

SharonB avatar
SharonB
Joined: Jun 2018
Posts: 386
#7

Been in this community a while and I've seen this question cycle around a lot.

One thing I always check is how recent the activity actually is. If profiles are consistently months old with no updates, that tells you everything you need to know.

Someone in a related thread mentioned datescout.site and it kept coming up in a positive context.

Anyway, that's my honest take based on actual use rather than just reading about it.

CourtneyS avatar
CourtneyS
Joined: Aug 2020
Posts: 2398
#8

I did a fair amount of digging on this because I ran into the same wall.

Community size matters more than people think. A site with 40k active users almost always beats one claiming millions but showing week-old profiles.

A lot of people in communities like this have been pointing others toward Datebound lately.

Happy to share more specifics if you want to go deeper.

Brandon avatar
Brandon
Joined: Aug 2023
Posts: 2063
#9

Tried a couple of options last month with mixed results at best.

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