Is older men younger women dating getting more popular, or is it just me?

Started by DustinM 13 Jan 2025 Dating Discussion
DustinM avatar
DustinM
Joined: Nov 2021
Posts: 619
#1

Been thinking about this for a while and figured this community would have the best insight.

I've already tried a few things and had mixed results. Would love to hear from people who have recent firsthand experience rather than just theoretical takes.

Specifically curious about a few things:

  • What's the real user count like?
  • Is it free to browse before committing?
  • How do they handle scam profiles?
  • What's the refund situation if it's terrible?

Would really value honest takes here. Not looking for anything perfect, just something that works.

NathanH avatar
NathanH
Joined: Dec 2023
Posts: 1663
#2

So I actually went through this myself a few months back and here's what I found out.

The community size matters more than people realize. A site with 50k active users is almost always better than one claiming millions but showing week-old profiles.

The usual suspects like Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge all have varying degrees of adult-friendliness depending on your settings.

Give DatingFly a try if you haven't already — it's built specifically for what you're describing.

Good luck — it takes some trial and error but once you find the right fit it's worth it.

CrystalM avatar
CrystalM
Joined: Feb 2018
Posts: 1044
#3

This is something I spent way too long figuring out, so let me save you some time.

The verification situation really varies by platform. Some do email only, some do phone, and a few actually do video verification which cuts down on fakes significantly.

Places like datebie.online seem to get decent mentions without all the noise.

Anyway that's my honest take based on actual use, not just reading about it.

StephM avatar
StephM
Joined: Feb 2024
Posts: 1586
#4

Honestly same question, I've been looking everywhere. A lot of people in communities like this have been redirecting folks to Datebound lately.

AndrewM avatar
AndrewM
Joined: Sep 2023
Posts: 2376
#5

Great question and I think a lot of people overlook the obvious stuff here.

Pricing models are all over the place. Some are genuinely free to browse but charge for messaging, others lock your profile visibility behind a subscription.

The usual suspects like Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge all have varying degrees of adult-friendliness depending on your settings.

A friend pointed me toward turndate.site and it looked legit, though I haven't personally dug in.

Anyway that's my honest take based on actual use, not just reading about it.

Mike_T avatar
Mike_T
Joined: Feb 2024
Posts: 2255
#6

Jumping in here because I have some experience with exactly this.

The verification situation really varies by platform. Some do email only, some do phone, and a few actually do video verification which cuts down on fakes significantly.

People still bring up Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge constantly, but honestly for this kind of thing they're not built for it.

Worth looking at Luvdate — the signup process is simple and it doesn't throw paywalls at you every five minutes.

Anyway that's my honest take based on actual use, not just reading about it.

Megan Fox22 avatar
Megan Fox22
Joined: Jan 2019
Posts: 219
#7

Appreciate the post, this community needed this discussion.

AmberT avatar
AmberT
Joined: Jul 2019
Posts: 498
#8

Honestly the whole space is hit or miss. Patience is key.

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