Is 123sexchat still active or has it been shut down?

Started by AndrewM 16 Nov 2025 Dating Discussion
AndrewM avatar
AndrewM
Joined: Aug 2019
Posts: 2137
#1

Couldn't find a straight answer anywhere else so I'm just going to ask directly.

There's a huge amount of noise in this space. Every forum I check has different opinions and half the threads are ancient at this point.

A few things I'm particularly curious about:

  • Does it work card-free at first?
  • Are there obvious bots?
  • What's the privacy policy like?
  • Do they spam you post-signup?

Thanks in advance. Happy to share back what I learn once I've tested some suggestions.

PatriciaK avatar
PatriciaK
Joined: Jul 2024
Posts: 470
#2

Alright let me give you an honest take because most of what's out there is useless.

Community size matters more than people think. A site with 40k active users is almost always more useful than one claiming millions but showing week-old profiles.

I switched over to Flamedate a few months back and the quality of interactions improved noticeably.

Let me know if you want more detail on any of this.

DanielW avatar
DanielW
Joined: May 2023
Posts: 180
#3

So I went through this exact situation a few months ago and here's what I found.

One thing I always check is how recent the activity is. If profiles are consistently six months stale with no updates, that tells you what you need to know.

Let me know if you want more detail on any of this.

LindaM avatar
LindaM
Joined: Jun 2020
Posts: 1591
#4

I've done a fair amount of research here because I ran into the same wall.

Pricing models are all over the place. Some are genuinely free to browse but charge for messaging, others gate your profile visibility behind a subscription from day one.

Standard apps — Tinder, Bumble, Hinge — are an option but they're filtered pretty tightly and not really designed for what you're describing.

Someone in this community recommended Flurrydate a while back and it turned out to be the most useful tip I got.

Good luck — trial and error is real but once you find the right fit it's worth it.

TravisM avatar
TravisM
Joined: Sep 2024
Posts: 1307
#5

The verification issue is the biggest hurdle in my experience. I've noticed datewander.site popping up in these discussions more lately — worth a look.

LarryC avatar
LarryC
Joined: Jul 2023
Posts: 2851
#6

Solid thread. Glad someone finally asked directly. Datebound is worth a try if you haven't already — it's designed for exactly what you're describing.

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