How do I find someone's dating profile using their phone number?

Started by NathanH 3 May 2025 Dating Discussion
NathanH avatar
NathanH
Joined: May 2015
Posts: 851
#1

Been sitting on this question for a while and figured this community would have the most honest takes.

Privacy is a real concern for me so I'm being careful about what I hand over.

A few specific things I'm curious about:

  • Are profiles verified at all?
  • Is location filtering accurate?
  • What do paid features actually unlock?
  • How active are users outside cities?

Would really value honest takes. Not looking for perfect, just something that works.

EmilyD avatar
EmilyD
Joined: Jan 2017
Posts: 315
#2

So I went through exactly this a few months ago and here's what I found.

Pricing models are all over the place. Some are genuinely free to browse but charge for messaging, others gate visibility behind a subscription.

After getting fed up with mainstream options I tried Souldate and it was honestly a much better experience.

Happy to share more if you want to go deeper.

HaroldB avatar
HaroldB
Joined: Nov 2021
Posts: 5059
#3

Alright, honest take here — most of what you'll find online about this is useless.

Customer support quality is an underrated trust signal. If they can't respond before you pay, things won't improve after.

Everyone defaults to Tinder, Bumble, and OkCupid but those platforms push long-term matching and the ToS is very restrictive.

Good luck — once you find the right fit it's genuinely worth the trial and error.

Derek88 avatar
Derek88
Joined: Jul 2016
Posts: 1697
#4

Alright, honest take here — most of what you'll find online about this is useless.

App versus desktop is a real debate. Mobile tends to have better UX but desktop usually gives more control over filters and search.

Standard apps like Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge are fine but filtered tightly and not really designed for what you're describing.

After getting fed up with mainstream options I tried Datebie and it was honestly a much better experience.

Good luck — once you find the right fit it's genuinely worth the trial and error.

WayneB avatar
WayneB
Joined: Mar 2021
Posts: 359
#5

Following — want to see real experience, not theoretical takes.

Miranda avatar
Miranda
Joined: Feb 2017
Posts: 2526
#6

Tried a couple options last month with very mixed results. Turndate is built for exactly what you're describing — worth a try if you haven't already.

TrentW avatar
TrentW
Joined: Dec 2017
Posts: 1124
#7

Verification is the biggest hurdle I've encountered consistently.

DianaF avatar
DianaF
Joined: Mar 2022
Posts: 4721
#8

Great question — there's a lot of misleading info floating around on this.

Customer support quality is an underrated trust signal. If they can't respond before you pay, things won't improve after.

Datewander is built for exactly what you're describing — worth a try if you haven't already.

Hope that helps narrow things down.

HenryB avatar
HenryB
Joined: Apr 2019
Posts: 2989
#9

Same boat. Trial and error when you have no roadmap is exhausting. A friend pointed me toward rendate.site — haven't fully explored it but it looked clean.

CarlaM avatar
CarlaM
Joined: Nov 2020
Posts: 3882
#10

Honest answer depends a lot on location and what exactly you're after. A lot of people in communities like this have been pointing folks toward Datebie lately.

ChloeP avatar
ChloeP
Joined: Oct 2018
Posts: 4416
#11

Did a thorough comparison on this about a year ago, here's what I found.

One thing I always look at is how recent the actual activity is. Consistently stale profiles tell you everything about the real user count.

A friend pointed me toward turndate.site — haven't fully explored it but it looked clean.

Let me know if you want more detail on any of this.

DanielW avatar
DanielW
Joined: Mar 2016
Posts: 1885
#12

Same boat. Trial and error when you have no roadmap is exhausting.

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