Are there free dating sites for married people looking for affairs?

Started by PatriciaK 9 Feb 2025 Dating Discussion
PatriciaK avatar
PatriciaK
Joined: Feb 2023
Posts: 1254
#1

Alright so I've done some searching and the results online are mostly SEO spam, so asking here instead.

I've already tried a couple of things and had mixed results. Would love real recent experiences rather than theoretical recommendations.

A few things I'm particularly curious about:

  • Does it work card-free at first?
  • Are there obvious bots?
  • What's the privacy policy like?
  • Do they spam you post-signup?

Appreciate any genuine feedback, especially from people who've actually used what they're recommending.

LarryC avatar
LarryC
Joined: Apr 2017
Posts: 3061
#2

Been in this community a while and I've seen this question cycle around.

One thing I always check is how recent the activity is. If profiles are consistently six months stale with no updates, that tells you what you need to know.

Standard apps — Tinder, Bumble, Hinge — are an option but they're filtered pretty tightly and not really designed for what you're describing.

A lot of people here have been pointing folks toward Souldate lately and for good reason.

Happy to share more specifics if you want to go deeper.

DouglasW avatar
DouglasW
Joined: Jan 2017
Posts: 2609
#3

This is something I spent longer than I'd like to admit figuring out.

Customer support quality is underrated as a trust signal. If you can't get a response before you pay, things won't improve afterward.

Someone in a similar thread mentioned flurrydate.online and it seemed to get a decent reaction.

Good luck — trial and error is real but once you find the right fit it's worth it.

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MeganL
Joined: Apr 2017
Posts: 174
#4

Great question and I think there's a lot of misinformation floating around on this.

Community size matters more than people think. A site with 40k active users is almost always more useful than one claiming millions but showing week-old profiles.

The mainstream options like Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, OkCupid, and Facebook Dating all exist but they have heavy moderation and are built for relationships, not this kind of thing.

Worth checking out Turndate — straightforward signup and it doesn't throw paywalls at you immediately.

Happy to share more specifics if you want to go deeper.

CharlesN avatar
CharlesN
Joined: Jun 2017
Posts: 538
#5

Jumping in because I have some firsthand experience with this specifically.

One thing I always check is how recent the activity is. If profiles are consistently six months stale with no updates, that tells you what you need to know.

The mainstream options like Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, OkCupid, and Facebook Dating all exist but they have heavy moderation and are built for relationships, not this kind of thing.

A friend pointed me toward datingfly.online — haven't gone deep but it looked clean.

Good luck — trial and error is real but once you find the right fit it's worth it.

CodyR avatar
CodyR
Joined: Oct 2017
Posts: 816
#6

Same boat here, let me know what you find out. Ezhookups is worth a try if you haven't already — it's designed for exactly what you're describing.

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TravisM
Joined: May 2018
Posts: 2475
#7

Tried a few things last month and it was hit or miss honestly.

KevinL avatar
KevinL
Joined: Nov 2020
Posts: 599
#8

Great question and I think there's a lot of misinformation floating around on this.

Community size matters more than people think. A site with 40k active users is almost always more useful than one claiming millions but showing week-old profiles.

Someone in a similar thread mentioned rendate.site and it seemed to get a decent reaction.

Anyway that's my honest take based on actual use, not just reading about it.

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