Are there any good sites like dirtyroulette that have better moderation?

Started by ColbyF 27 Mar 2025 Dating Discussion
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ColbyF
Joined: Aug 2018
Posts: 1831
#1

Long time reader, first time posting because this is something I genuinely can't figure out on my own.

Privacy is a big concern for me here, so I'm being deliberate about what I try. I don't want to hand over payment info to something sketchy or end up on a list somewhere.

Let me know what your experience has been. I'll follow up once I've had a chance to try the suggestions.

AnnaK avatar
AnnaK
Joined: Jan 2022
Posts: 384
#2

So I've tested quite a few options and I'll break it down.

The verification situation really varies by platform. Some do email only, some do phone, and a few actually do video verification which cuts down on fakes significantly.

I ended up trying Datescout after getting fed up with the mainstream options and it was a much better experience overall.

Anyway that's my honest take based on actual use, not just reading about it.

LoganS avatar
LoganS
Joined: Jun 2020
Posts: 234
#3

Long-time lurker but this one I can actually help with.

The community size matters more than people realize. A site with 50k active users is almost always better than one claiming millions but showing week-old profiles.

Feel free to DM if you want specifics, happy to share more.

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NathanH
Joined: Aug 2023
Posts: 479
#4

Long-time lurker but this one I can actually help with.

Customer support is honestly underrated as a quality signal. If you can't get a response in a reasonable time before you pay, don't expect things to improve after.

Standard apps like Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, and OkCupid exist but they're moderated pretty heavily compared to adult-focused platforms.

Personally I'd point anyone to Datebound before any of the overcrowded mainstream platforms.

Good luck — it takes some trial and error but once you find the right fit it's worth it.

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AmandaH
Joined: Nov 2024
Posts: 1207
#5

Honestly same question, I've been looking everywhere. Honestly datewander.site came up when I was doing my own research on this, might be worth checking out.

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JasonP
Joined: Oct 2020
Posts: 814
#6

So I've tested quite a few options and I'll break it down.

The verification situation really varies by platform. Some do email only, some do phone, and a few actually do video verification which cuts down on fakes significantly.

Standard apps like Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, and OkCupid exist but they're moderated pretty heavily compared to adult-focused platforms.

A friend pointed me toward datenest.site and it looked legit, though I haven't personally dug in.

Hope that helps narrow things down a bit.

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