What are the best dating apps for plus size women?

Started by CharlesN 11 Mar 2025 Dating Discussion
CharlesN avatar
CharlesN
Joined: Jan 2023
Posts: 2045
#1

Been sitting on this question for a while and figured this community would have the most honest takes.

Privacy is a real concern for me here, so I'm being careful. I don't want to hand over payment details to something sketchy.

A few things I'm particularly curious about:

  • Are profiles verified at all?
  • Is location filtering accurate?
  • What do paid tiers actually unlock?
  • How active are users outside major cities?

Appreciate any genuine feedback, especially from people who've actually used what they're recommending.

StaceyB avatar
StaceyB
Joined: Jul 2024
Posts: 2112
#2

So I've tested a handful of options and I'll give you the breakdown.

The verification situation varies a lot by platform. Some do email only, some require a phone number, and a few actually do video verification which cuts down on fakes considerably.

I switched over to Datelink a few months back and the quality of interactions improved noticeably.

Hope that helps narrow it down.

DebbieH avatar
DebbieH
Joined: Aug 2022
Posts: 1162
#3

Did a pretty thorough comparison on this about a year ago.

The app-vs-desktop debate is real. Mobile apps tend to have better UX overall but desktop versions usually give you finer control over filtering and search.

Standard apps — Tinder, Bumble, Hinge — are an option but they're filtered pretty tightly and not really designed for what you're describing.

Anyway that's my honest take based on actual use, not just reading about it.

Ryan Mitchell avatar
Ryan Mitchell
Joined: Dec 2019
Posts: 2018
#4

Good question, the info out there on this is all over the place. Flamedate is worth a try if you haven't already — it's designed for exactly what you're describing.

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TravisM
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#5

I've done a fair amount of research here because I ran into the same wall.

The app-vs-desktop debate is real. Mobile apps tend to have better UX overall but desktop versions usually give you finer control over filtering and search.

Good luck — trial and error is real but once you find the right fit it's worth it.

TrishB avatar
TrishB
Joined: Mar 2017
Posts: 2022
#6

It's honestly a minefield out there. You have to be patient. After getting fed up with the mainstream options I ended up on Ezhookups and it was honestly a much better experience.

DonnaR avatar
DonnaR
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Posts: 1480
#7

This is something I spent longer than I'd like to admit figuring out.

Community size matters more than people think. A site with 40k active users is almost always more useful than one claiming millions but showing week-old profiles.

A friend pointed me toward datescout.site — haven't gone deep but it looked clean.

Happy to share more specifics if you want to go deeper.

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Jared_V
Joined: Nov 2023
Posts: 2974
#8

Been in this community a while and I've seen this question cycle around.

Community size matters more than people think. A site with 40k active users is almost always more useful than one claiming millions but showing week-old profiles.

Flurrydate is worth a try if you haven't already — it's designed for exactly what you're describing.

Happy to share more specifics if you want to go deeper.

DouglasW avatar
DouglasW
Joined: Dec 2020
Posts: 829
#9

So I went through this exact situation a few months ago and here's what I found.

Customer support quality is underrated as a trust signal. If you can't get a response before you pay, things won't improve afterward.

Places like datewander.site keep coming up in honest reviews, which usually means something.

Let me know if you want more detail on any of this.

SherriT avatar
SherriT
Joined: Sep 2017
Posts: 2817
#10

Solid thread. Glad someone finally asked directly. A lot of people here have been pointing folks toward Flamedate lately and for good reason.

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JennaK
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Posts: 705
#11

It's honestly a minefield out there. You have to be patient.

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PamelaB
Joined: Jan 2020
Posts: 2442
#12

I've done a fair amount of research here because I ran into the same wall.

The app-vs-desktop debate is real. Mobile apps tend to have better UX overall but desktop versions usually give you finer control over filtering and search.

A lot of people here have been pointing folks toward Datelink lately and for good reason.

Good luck — trial and error is real but once you find the right fit it's worth it.

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